tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post960145584535394346..comments2024-03-28T06:07:19.165-07:00Comments on Saffron Tree: Books as aids to keeping a child safe from sexual abusePraba Ramhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12124515962155387444noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-17307674232527860032011-04-13T10:46:18.277-07:002011-04-13T10:46:18.277-07:00An admirable effort Sandhya, truly awesome. I'...An admirable effort Sandhya, truly awesome. I've been following a bit of this and the responses to CSA over the internet and although I still don't quite know the approach to use when educating my children, atleast I am asking myself questions. Uncomfortable perhaps but questions nonetheless.Poppinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11199077808716988320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-3908149173069243392011-04-10T02:14:48.377-07:002011-04-10T02:14:48.377-07:00Thanks, Prabha, Vibha.
@Vibha: That is a wonderfu...Thanks, Prabha, Vibha.<br /><br />@Vibha: That is a wonderful initiative that has been taken up. I tried to talk to the ladies in my building, but barring a few, I met with a lot of resistance. Somehow there is this misconception that it will be like giving licence to unwanted behaviour. Also, a lot of ladies thought that the children get such cautionary tales from hindi films anyway, so why bother? That films present a glorified /lopsided version doesn't seem to bother them.<br /><br />Friends who know where to find me can borrow the books I have.sandhyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654489216158421654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-42982759949596425122011-04-09T07:26:50.184-07:002011-04-09T07:26:50.184-07:00Thank you Sandhya for this very important list of ...Thank you Sandhya for this very important list of books on CSA. The discussion and your recommendations make a scary/makes-me-uneasy-to-talk topic seem easy to approach. <br /><br />Would be wonderful if these books are made available for families and caregivers to access and also for social workers to distribute/use them in the public, esp poorer areas. They are probably using different locally appropriate materials already. <br /><br />Any form of public awareness programs will help. But we have come a long way, haven't we? Thanks for bringing this list to us.Praba Ramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12124515962155387444noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-16370026401204945432011-04-09T04:48:05.943-07:002011-04-09T04:48:05.943-07:00Sandhya, you have done a wonderful job with this p...Sandhya, you have done a wonderful job with this post and I have posted this link to almost all the people I know online. <br /><br />Last Saturday we held a small session with the children of our apartment complex as part of the Bal-vikas that a friend of mine takes every week. We talked to them about how not to ignore the feeling of 'discomfort' in any kind of situation, it is very important to first recognize the feeling and then say a firm 'No' to it. We are planning to have such sessions every 3-4 months and these books will surely help us in bringing the point home.Vibhahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07251018763698523629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-54839692389272113802011-04-09T02:26:13.531-07:002011-04-09T02:26:13.531-07:00Thank you, Starry, Diya, Choxbox, Meera, utbtkids,...Thank you, Starry, Diya, Choxbox, Meera, utbtkids, Ranjani, Sheela, for the encouraging words. I am glad I got to do this post, as I learnt a lot in the process, much that has helped me personally. As parents, I suppose there isn't much we wouldn't do to keep our children safe. <br /><br />@Starry: I actually came to know about the Robie Harris books from your post on the birds and bees some time ago, and checked them out when I had been to the Strand sale with Chox. They are wonderful, but I did not agree with the ages specified, and there isway too much in them. Maybe they should look at publishing individual chapters separately. I don't know.:)<br /><br />@Chox: Yes, that book by Jaagori is a wonderful one to empower kids re gendering. Thanks for mentioning it. Had totally slipped my mind. For those interested, we had picked up this book from sutradhar in Bangalore, and here is the link. <br />http://jagori.org/our-activities/resource-centre/<br /><br />@Diya: Welcome here, and thanks for your comment. Hugs. I know how you feel. I know how you may blame yourself. I have had to tell off autowallas, co-passengers in trains etc if I thought they were being inappropriate. Once I was told "yeh to meri beti jaisi hai!" (she is like my daughter!) I told him that "beti to nahin hai na?" (but she is not your daughter!)But sometimes even we could get misled. Don't blame yourself. I hope that man gets his comeuppance.sandhyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09654489216158421654noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-48405653549552051732011-04-08T19:00:26.927-07:002011-04-08T19:00:26.927-07:00Wonderful post and an excellent resource, Sandhya!...Wonderful post and an excellent resource, Sandhya! Thank you! I know I'll come back to this.Sheelahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01892316117026334238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-23183530629585825022011-04-08T18:30:58.433-07:002011-04-08T18:30:58.433-07:00What a thorough and well researched post this is !...What a thorough and well researched post this is !! Great job Sandhya...will look out for these books.ranjani.sathishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10450770799790366871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-49589293255469925952011-04-08T09:34:33.718-07:002011-04-08T09:34:33.718-07:00Good resource Sandhya. Book marking it for referen...Good resource Sandhya. Book marking it for reference.utbtkidshttp://www.utbtkids.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-48329425156162728912011-04-08T09:24:12.677-07:002011-04-08T09:24:12.677-07:00Excellent post Sandhya! I loved the intro - it was...Excellent post Sandhya! I loved the intro - it was as gentle as the (sensitive) issue itself. And also how you eased us into the importance and role of books in such matters.<br />The books sound very appropriate too. Thanks, will be coming back to them soon.Meera Sriramhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16920643047652671176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-78029378010464108152011-04-08T00:15:25.317-07:002011-04-08T00:15:25.317-07:00Brill post S. I liked My Body Is Private a lot - f...Brill post S. I liked My Body Is Private a lot - for its simplicity in delivering the message. The Harris books are full of info - so yes one does have to pick and choose.<br /><br />Would you add What is a Girl? What is a Boy? (by Kamala Bhasin, published by Jagori - remember we bought it together?) though not about sexual abuse, it does talk about gender differences and similarities and could be a starting point to carry on a discussion about CSA.Choxboxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03741540918529448553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-78205867166696607742011-04-07T23:06:14.340-07:002011-04-07T23:06:14.340-07:00Thank you very much for this information. my daugh...Thank you very much for this information. my daughter is 11 almost an year ago, we were entering the neighbourhood grocery store when a man who was coming out of the same shop said something and pressed her cheek. i gave a weak smile, I thought he was one of the uncles living in our lane and knew my child, who played in the lane everyday. My baby looked at me with a sad smile and said, "Ma I didn't like that" (what the man did), I asked her whether she knew him and she said "no"! I was aghast, a man can, before my eyes threaten my girl and walk away and I could not do anything about it! What would happen if I am not there?! i told my baby to run away if any other man tries to touch her this way...but I think she, and I too, need better guidance regarding this. I will most definitely try to get my hands on a few of these books. Thanksdiyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07467285543383068855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-27389926.post-27816096772646152452011-04-07T19:40:36.269-07:002011-04-07T19:40:36.269-07:00Thanks for the list Sandhya....these are totally a...Thanks for the list Sandhya....these are totally appropriate ways of talking abt it. I agree with you abt the Robie Harris books...there are pictures and chapters in ours that I'm not too happy abt letting my 9 year old read yet, so it's tucked away from her.starry eyedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02821016011330573083noreply@blogger.com